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Life Stories >
Witnessing God's Transforming Love
(Names are fictitious for confidentiality
and are used on all prayer requests)
The following is a small sample of the lives we
are
privileged to be touching. It can be challenging too, as there
is
often many years of abuse each Teen has experienced.
Some Teens are self-destructive due to internal conflicts, unresolved
issues, poor parenting and/or home situations.
As always, you are welcome to pray
for us!
Life Stories of 10 Teens We Have Known and
Cared For
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- Krista, now 17 years old, is a
private intake from a broken home.
Both parents are in the area, but can not handle her. She would be home
alone for long periods of time. This would give her time to do
anything. She was sullen and disrespectful when she came. She lived
with the Keenons for 18 months. She is very overweight because of poor
self-esteem. Now she has responded. She has lost some weight and is
very involved in our church youth group and has been selected as a
student leader. Jill home schooled her because of conflicts at school.
She came to us before being involved in the system.
- Sonia is a little slow.
She is 15 yrs. old and
operates on a fifth grade level (11 yrs old) emotionally,
psychologically, and educationally, but looks 18 yrs. old physically.
She has a physical deformity to her shoulder, causing a handy-cap. She
was a "crack" baby and has been in several residential homes and foster
homes. Her mother was always on drugs, beat her, and tormented her from
birth. One foster mother held a gun to her head at 11 because she
reported that she had been raped by the foster parents’ son.
She has
been raped by five men in and out of her family. She has had a house
burn down while she was in it, with her little brother and sister and
one other foster child when no one else was home. She is a delight in
our lives and is a volunteer at a nursing home and youth center. This
is unusual for this type of abuse.
- Amy’s mother had her
out of wedlock between marriages.
Her mother’s second husband adopted Amy and then they
divorced. She had
a second stepfather by the time she was 6 yrs. old. He raped her at age
9 or 10. Her mother abandoned her and disowned her for saying the man
molested her. Amy is Bi-Polar (manic-depressive) and ADHD. She has been
in multiple placements and has been asked to leave because of her
erratic behavior. Amy lived with her 77 year-old grandmother and became
too much for her to handle. Grandmother calls every day to check on her
and is very concerned about every aspect of her life. Amy’s
mother and
grandmother are also Bi-Polar. This is cause for much hysteria and
apprehension running through the family. Her long term prognosis is not
good for independence. Amy is sixteen years old and is in a special
school for emotional and behaviorally challenged teens. She could not
sleep at night and would get up and eat large quantities of food and
talk on the phone all night, missing school the next day. Now she is in
school daily and sleeps every night. Authorities can not believe the
change.
- Holly, 16 yrs. old, has a
history of violence. She
came to us from the DuPage County Youth Home. She lived with her
divorced alcoholic mother. Mom is the abusive and aggressive type
alcoholic. Dad is also abusive to Mom and the siblings. Holly was in
the youth home because during one of the family feuds she broke her
mother’s arm. She has had several incidents of violent
behavior at
school and with friends. Now she is on the mend and is learning to
control her anger and her grades are improving. She has begun
counseling with her parents separately. She has not spoken to her
father in six months. She is a demure, unassuming, quiet girl. She was
a cheerleader until her school changed.
- Jessie, 15 yrs. old, also has
two alcoholic parents.
Her story is too long to tell accurately. Before she came to Open Door
she had been in at least ten foster homes and fourteen schools from the
age of six to fifteen. Both parents molested her and her younger sister
by the time they were ten. She had a great deal of trouble getting
along with any foster parents and her sister did better and was adopted
by their last foster parents. Jessie could not go through with the
adoption. Their Mother lives in Florida and their father must have
supervised visits. ( He has since died of alcohol related diseases.)
We, Jill and Paul, have adopted her. She is fitting into our family as
she has not fit any where before. Jessie is a talented musician both
vocally and with wind instruments. She is also a fledgling gymnast.
- Hanna, who is 15 years old, does
not know who her father is, and has a cocaine addict for a mother.
She was taken from a good foster home, after living there for three
years, and was sent to an aunt she did not know. That lasted for six
months, which caused her to go into a deep depression, sending her to
the hospital. She was doing well in the hospital when they reintroduced
her to her mother who had given up custody years ago. Her mother stole
her from the hospital for ten days in which time Hanna tried to poison
her mother. She has now been in the hospital for one year and wants a
normal home very badly .
- Sparkle's mother died when she
was 12 and is now 17.
She was shipped from relative to relative. Several beat her in
unmentionable ways and places. Her aunt went to jail for her last
beating. Her aunt's husband goes to Chicago several times a week to
procure drugs to sell in the suburbs. Sparkle has had several friends
shot in "drive- bys". She has been in a gang and has been raped. In her
formative years she resided close to Garfield Park on the west side.
She and Sonia lived within six blocks of each other in the city, but
did not know each other. She is heavier than Krista.
- Conchita is 14 years old and is
in junior high. She is
from Mexico and lived with her single mother who has trouble
controlling her family. They had a fight over a boy in the house.
Conchita ran away and when she tried to come back her mom refused to
take her home. Her sister, 15, ran away, got pregnant and now lives in
another state. Her mother is afraid it will be repeated and feels she
can't control her. Conchita loves the gang-bangers and wants experience
with boys.
- Suzanna, 16 years old but is the
age equivalent of six or
seven, is a special needs child who was taken from her mom because of
neglect. She has now been pulled from a pre-adoptive foster
home
without notice. Some test showed some problems with the foster Dad. She
misses them and is confused. She has nothing in common with teens her
own age. She is in puberty, but is not aware of her body functions. She
is now sharing a room with our nine year old daughter who she emulates
more closely. Some days she can tie her shoes and some days she can't,
along with not being able to pour milk because of shaking. Because of
these examples, you can see how low-level functioning she is.
- Mandy is 16 years old.
Her Dad abandoned the family
when she was ten. Mom divorced her Dad and Mandy got a new stepfather.
Mom had trouble with both daughters and the oldest left. Violence and
anger are part of the family style. The teens beat mom and mom beats
the teens. Mandy starts a pattern of stealing and acting out to scream
for help. When she refuses discipline, Mom abandons her and says, "I
don’t ever want to talk to you ever again!". This girl is a
star
basketball player, and her grades are coming back up to above-average
after having dipped to failing.
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FINAL REQUESTS
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Please pray
for them and our needs or if you wish, you can donate to help us continue
"opening doors" for these Teens.
Thank you, and may our Lord richly bless you
this day.
In Christ's Service for the Community,
Paul & Jill Keenon
Open Door for Teens, Inc.
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How Do We Get the Teens We Help?
Our Teens come from the Illinois
Department of Children and Family Services, DuPage
County Probation Department, private agencies and concerned
parents.
Most reside in the Chicago suburbs previous to
placement through ODFT, Inc.
This is a sampling of Teens from our Foster Care program. The boys and
girls come from many ethnic groups and this can often complicate their
lives.
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